My go to is the “See yourself as the price.”-approach. When you jokingly set her up that she is hitting on you. For example:
Her: So, you want anything to drink?
Me: Oh I see, already trying to get me drunk, eh?
Become a ball of anxiety, never talk to them, remain alone.
Be a normal person around them without trying anything. If they like you, you’ll notice it.
… usually randomly 5 years afterward.
I have seen many women do this actually. Never worked
I have had friends say years after things like “oh I’d screw your brains out the second you wagged your finger at me”. Or “oh so men and women can’t be just friends” when they were interested in me and I was into them. I do flirt and show interest, rarely have any response, yet years later, when we are just friends (or if she or I are in a relationship) I get confessions. Maddening.
“Hi, I’m an ultra boring nerd girl. I’m on several Fediverse platforms. …No, I don’t know Nicole. Please don’t follow me. No seriously please don’t.”
I’m not very good at socialising, sorry
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Here is my favorite technique:
“First treat a woman like a person, then a princess, then a Greek goddess, then a person again.” -Shawn (Psych)
Treating some like a person first is really the most important thing. Everything else is optional but people like to be treated special for a while before being a person again.
Being near them for 4 years as a casual acquaintance and hoping they eventually initiate something.
And how’s that going for ya?
Prize, not price. And thinking unrealistically high of yourself will only attract low self-esteem girls. If that’s your thing, great for you.
The best strategy in my experience is being yourself, not artificially bending towards what you think will look attractive. Self confidence is more attractive than narcissism, at least for my type of girl.
is being yourself, not artificially bending towards what you think will look attractive.
If I’m understanding you correctly. Those things aren’t necessarily exclusive to each other in my opinion. I am constantly thinking of something funny to say because I like saying funny or flirtatious things. And you can learn these things, yet still hold true to oneself.
Yes, there is overlapping. You make an effort to say funny and witty things, partly because you think it will make you look smart, hence attractive, and partly because you enjoy making her laugh. Which part is the biggest influences how confident you seem.
You sound 12, no offense. It’s also “prize”, not “price”, within the context of what you said.
Her: So, you want anything to drink?
Wait are you hitting on them at their place of work, as a customer? Don’t fucking do that.
as a customer?
No, no, as her supervisor.
Ok, that’s funny. I’d go on a date with you.
Be best friends with her for yyears. Then literally just look at each other, shrug and say “Meh…might as well fuck”.
For guys, saying “hi”.
For girls, I have to go hunting a Dragon with the sword of King Arthur to be considered worth of a cup of coffee.
Must a be one hell of a coffee.
I find that cringe tbh. Just be curious about the other person and talk like a human, not like a creep. Asking shit like “are you trying to get time drunk?” might sound funny to a man, but it is a legitimate concern for women and makes you sound like an arrogant teenager.
How in hell did your rational take get downvoted… The Lemmy hive mind is certainly just as bad as Reddit’s.
Yep, the more you spend here the more you realize it’s just Reddit but ad-ftee lol
Disassociate and make funny small talk while i internally have an anxiety attack.
Pro move.
Classic cousin of the “realize a week later they were hitting on you and you blew it monumentally”
A week? What is this, professional hour?! Try a few years.
The best way to talk to a woman is to treat her like a person
Bingo. My approach to this is being really honest. Just tell her you’re interested and how you’re interested. See where the conversation goes from there.
Real talk though, a wine and cheese date is amazing especially if you get wild with moldy cheeses and you both end up laughing at each others “weird cheese faces”
Make them laugh, easy day.
Bitches love cheese.
My technique is to not be interested in the person. Not like ignoring them or being mean or anything. But… when I like someone, I get all shy and awkward around them and I tend to screw up any attempt at socializing.
If I’m not romantically interested in them, I can be myself, which I’ve been told is naturally very funny and flirtatious.
Every person I’ve ever dated was a friend long before I started a relationship with them, because I took the time to know them and eventually developed mutual feelings for them. By the time I was asked out, I already had deep respect for them and felt comfortable being myself around them, so dating was just the next step in our relationship.
And yes, I’ve always been the one asked out. I asked out a girl once, and instead of just saying no, she made a public spectacle about how creepy I was and how she would never date me. I was extremely shy back then and my failed attempts to approach her apparently came off as me creeping on her, so by the time I actually worked up the courage to talk to her, she gave me a traumatizingly public “hell no.” I never asked anyone else out again after that. I’ve dated close to a dozen people in my life and every single one of them asked me out.
