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Cake day: June 12th, 2023

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  • That’s true I suppose. I may be overly cynical (and clinical) when it comes to such things, I think that stems from the extremely stifling household I grew up in, where my parents wanted me to be religious, wanted everyone to know I was religious, and wanted me to let everyone know I was religious, as if I was a lucky one to find salvation. At some point the browbeating wore off, and I realized whatever opinions and beliefs I held didn’t make me more or less than anyone else, and that no one else’s would make them any more or less than the average human to me. (So long as their opinions and beliefs don’t bring harm to others, that is.)


  • I actually have a friend like that as well. We played a lot of games and participated in roleplay communities together. I didn’t even know she was trans until one of her friends brought it up for some reason. My reaction was just kind, “Oh, neat, anyway.”

    I have a different friend who I knew before her transition who is a lot more vocal about such a thing, and while I do respect her decisions she definitely wears it as a badge of honor. A few months ago we were playing Minecraft with some of her friends, and I didn’t know any of them.

    One of them (to me) had a feminine name and a feminine voice, so when I was talking to my friend, I asked “Hey where did Zoey (example name) go? I need to give her some iron.” And my friend immediately cut me off to correct me that he was a he, and that he was trans, with a very angry tone to her voice. I understand misgendering may be a problem… but how was I supposed to know? We’re faceless voices across the internet, I know referring to everyone as they/them is ‘safer’, but that’s a little ridiculous to me (Especially because I’ve met some people who -don’t- want to be referred to with gender neutral pronouns)

    I know that might sound hypocritical, that I don’t think people should introduce themselves as trans or anything else, and that I shouldn’t be villified for making an innocent misassumption. Having my cake and eating it too.

    I would assume the goal of transitioning is for people to believe you are what you say you are, without the label of trans. I’d never have guessed that my rp friend was trans, and similarly if my friend had not told me their friend was trans, I would have just assumed he was a feminine guy, and not a trans man.


  • Well I’m not really arguing against anything, the question was what moral do I hold that I don’t think most people agree with.

    By the same argument, there shouldn’t be a straight community

    Yes, that’s basically what I said. I would prefer we live in a world where sexual orientation is no more prevalent a feature to define someone than their hair color. I wish there didn’t need to be laws for or against gay marriage, or rights for specific types of people over others. But this is reality and not a hopeful fantasy, so again I understand the the need for the LGBTQ community, and laws to protect and represent the people part of it. But at the same time, I personally don’t think anyone should be celebrated (or mocked) for being part of it.


  • Being trans, gay, bi, black, or a different ethnicity than what is considered ‘normal’ in your society doesn’t make you special, or less than human. I support trans rights and want to treat all humans equally on a base level. Assuming someone who looks or sounds like a woman is a woman is not transphobic, even if they are a trans man. Nor is assuming a man is straight homophobic.

    At the same time, I think it’s strange to introduce yourself as trans or gay in a public setting or on a social platform as if it’s your calling card or occupation to be proud of. I was born with double-jointed thumbs, I don’t think I should be congratulated or mocked for that, the same I don’t think someone born with a man’s body and a woman’s brain, or otherwise decides to identify as a woman later in life, or is sexually attracted to either anything or nothing, should be given more than a passing acknowledgement.

    I understand the world is cruel and harsh, and so I understand why there needs to be an LGBTQ community, but there -shouldn’t- be one.


  • I think there’s a difference between not calling someone an idiot and tolerating their bad ideas and actions though. I agree people need to be stopped, and not tolerated, but when the only answer is insulting them with various names like idiot or nazi, all that ends up happening is they keep their toxic and destructive ideas hidden from the public, and then band with others labelled idiot and nazi, until they feel comfortable in a group to express their rhetoric without fear.



  • This is very interesting. I’ve been thinking of how a similar but different system could be implemented. The front page of any instance always seems to have two to four posts by the same person, and I’ve been following a rule that if I notice it I block them to remove their clutter of posts from my feed. Unfortunately, most of these accounts are brand new ones posting memes, so it feels like for every two I swat down, four more take their place.

    I was looking for an instance that allowed me to mute all new accounts, or less likely an instance that filters out posts by the same person, but it doesn’t seem such a thing has been created.

    This isn’t the same that I wanted, and if I’m not mistaken it only applies to posts inside this instance, since the algorithm is removing them? Or does it filter out all similar posts across the fediverse feed? Still, it’s close in concept.