Coskii

• Those three guys at the bar that got OP to move multiple times because they could while OP was alone as their partner had wandered off somewhere.
• The neighbors that seem to delight in living near OPs car, which OP simply cannot fix in any meaningful way. Parking slightly further away is somehow just off the table.
• The same neighbors who have young kids who seem to live… above? OP and due to their inconsiderate ways OP can’t get any rest.
• The “hiring manager” who asked for personal details, added them on facebook, rushed them to complete some kind of job application, and then ghosted them for absolutely no reason.

As those defending them… I guess people on social platforms like this one have not been unanimously against these vile beings they find themselves surrounded by.

Am I an asshole?

It’s a more common question than you’d think.

That makes a lot more sense. According to the original post in which I was responding:

“I’m talking about like, service workers and store employees who are miserable and take their anger out on completely innocent people.”

It was from that framework that I made my post. In those settings as an customer/bystander (which would be completely innocent people) it would be very strange to get bullying comments from many of them. Most wouldn’t/don’t care enough about people they literally don’t need to interact with to even bother putting the effort in to bully.

Office work/hierarchy bullying are super common and happen in almost any workplace I’ve ever seen. I wasn’t aware that was the topic. As for how to avoid being bullied in those types of situations… it’s a lot of work. Some of the common ways people handle it are to ignore, confront, joke, or play dumb. I personally mix it up.

But the single best way to deal with bullying is/has/will always be: group up. Bullies generally ‘punch down’, going for people who appear in some way weaker than they are. It falls apart very quickly when there are others around who are willing and able to support you.

It’s more of a bell curve situation. The goal is to look as unoffensive as possible. Anything that can set off the ‘life is unfair’ alarm in people who are already unhappy increases the chances of comments. That includes, looking nice, wearing expensive (or perceived expensive) anything, most well doe makeup usage, nonstandard nailwork (anything more than a simple color).

While this isn’t true for everyone, it is definitely true for those who are willing to toss out comments in the first place…

And I wonder more than that how often you are getting comments. Unless you’re on either extreme end of the bell curve, or in some other way sticking out way more than you should, it’s strange to me that anyone would deal with being bullied.

The real question is how many times is it going to take before Canada and the rest of the world just move completely away from trade with the united states of america to avoid dealing with whatever on again off again bullshit.