The village would be birth control, abortions and sterilizations being available to anyone who needs them so that 17 year old children aren’t having children in the first place
that apparently falls completely to the mother. Fuck that.
I understand why you might say that, but as a single dad who has done 90% of the work while working crazy hectic jobs (and has maybe lost a chunk of sanity to it all), fuck that view. It’s part of the reason I’ve been on an island (metaphorically, I WISH literally) for more than a decade. Everyone telling me I’m doing the right thing, but still treating me as a pariah. Where are the scholarships for single fathers or the programs targeted at us? Do we not count? It’s seen as almost “creepy and weird,” it seems. Fuck. That.
“Oh, let’s do a playdate! Oh, your husband is jealous, too? Okay. Well, fuck me, I guess.”
I’m not sure I understand. Sounds like you are suffering BECAUSE society wants this responsibility to fall completely on the mother. We don’t even have a functional way for you to do that job without confusion and hostility.
That’s not a village, the village would be someone watching the kid while mom works.
Honestly, the village is everything that was listed here. Including the workplace finding a way to be child friendly. Even a restaurant.
It is currently too hard to have kids, and you can see that less people are doing it because everyone is so insensitive to it.
Not to mention, this post might also cost her Job for breaking policy.
The village would be birth control, abortions and sterilizations being available to anyone who needs them so that 17 year old children aren’t having children in the first place
The village would provide for the mother while she stayed home raising her child…
I’m happily child free but there’s a lot of folks out there who don’t understand why someone like me would choose not to have kids.
It’s because it’s a fucking huge responsibility that apparently falls completely to the mother. Fuck that.
I agree with everything except:
I understand why you might say that, but as a single dad who has done 90% of the work while working crazy hectic jobs (and has maybe lost a chunk of sanity to it all), fuck that view. It’s part of the reason I’ve been on an island (metaphorically, I WISH literally) for more than a decade. Everyone telling me I’m doing the right thing, but still treating me as a pariah. Where are the scholarships for single fathers or the programs targeted at us? Do we not count? It’s seen as almost “creepy and weird,” it seems. Fuck. That.
“Oh, let’s do a playdate! Oh, your husband is jealous, too? Okay. Well, fuck me, I guess.”
I’m not sure I understand. Sounds like you are suffering BECAUSE society wants this responsibility to fall completely on the mother. We don’t even have a functional way for you to do that job without confusion and hostility.
Huh. Good point.